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My Lists

March 17, 2008

Let’s just say that the opportunity to change situations as they stand now may be presented to me soon, if not with one avenue, perhaps another. But is it the change I want — I need?

Recently, a very good friend recommended that I do the list, and so I figured what better way to make a list than on here… right? By the way, if this seems vague, I’m sorry. But I know what it means.

Apparently, first I have to start with Pros and Cons of current situation:

PROS – Great home, great home life, great church family, in-laws close by, North Texas excursions like wineries, the ability to weigh in on my own assignments and carry them out, nice community, starting to get on track with finances and health.

CONS – Early hours, deprive myself of sleep, environment of people in a certain situation is less than desirable (big one), wage may not be comparable to my experience

ATTRIBUTES OF DREAM SITUATION:

Not having to go to bed early, big city market, region located in or around close proximity of friends and family, environment where people are professional and respectful, owning a very nice and comfortable home

I believe, without going any further, I can already name the areas of concern, isolating it from the rest of the lists. But how many times does everyone have 100% of every single positive attribute. Probably less than 1% of the time.

Now where does this make me end up? Hmm….

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3 Comments Add your own

1. JDK | March 18, 2008 at 11:49 am

In looking at the cons listing for your current position – how many of those cons can you control and/or directly influence? Sleep deprivation – not fun to deal with – what can you do to alleviate that situation? Undesirable people/work situations – how can you change/alter the situation so it isn’t so difficult to work with those challenging personalities? Payscale vs. experience – are you gaining anything by your current position that will be even more advantageous when it is time to move on? Thus allowing you to negotiate an even better salary and/or position?

Concerning your Dream Situation (and yes every person on the planet has a dream situation whether or not they articulate their desire for that situation). Just a couple of questions concerning your particular desires. What about the big city market draws you? Please be specific. The region and/or location close to friends and family – are your friends all centrally located? What would happen if they relocated – would you still want to be in that particular area or would you move again to be close to them? The owning a nice and comfortable home segment you already have accomplished – Kudos to you. The environment where people are professional and respectful – that is difficult as every environment has those individuals whose personalities might not correspond to your particular beliefs, ideologies or patterns of behavior and/or work. Part of this is understanding how to work with those difficult/challenging personalities while retaining your position and respecting their position regardless of how ridiculous you believe it is. No matter how hard we try it is virtually impossible to eradicate the ignorance within others – all we can do is maintain our professionalism and understand that they either do not understand the concepts of professionalism, respect and appropriate behavior or they have never been exposed to those concepts and thus are truly ignorant (in which case I would suggest some leisure reading material to them so they no longer remain in a state of ignorance) or they are consciously choosing to engage in inappropriate behavior in which case nothing you say or do will help them.

Those are some of my thoughts and questions. Please feel free to respond if you so desire.

Janette
2. justpictureit | March 18, 2008 at 9:53 pm

Damn, Janette. I agree with you. I think I could control quite a bit of the things on my lists, but like you said, it’s hard to really be in control of how other people are. I know I can control my reaction, but you know it’s soooo hard to make those moments into positives at times. You can look back at any situation and say, “Ya, I should have responded that way.” But when you’re in the moment, it’s a very different circumstance. I could be making “experience” very hefty now, and therefore could be making a future opportunity more beneficial finanically, but sometimes I feel like I’m not being rewarded for it currently. Then again, when I doubt myself, I’m like — why am I even receiving the salary I am now? That’s just the doubtful side. Dream situation: still in progress. I think I know where I want to be, however it is always greater when you know the family and friends you love are nearby. Even if those people weren’t *right there,* I think the location is a huge factor. So the ultimate answer is — I still don’t know jack crap. I don’t know where Sarah and I want to be (maybe she does???) and I still don’t know what my dream situation is, and I still don’t know NOTHING!!!!

When do answers begin flowing freely? I’m 28. I’m still waiting :\
3. JDK | March 19, 2008 at 11:06 am

The answers will never flow freely – that is why life is sometimes called the greatest adventure you will ever experience – it’s all about learning as you go.

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